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So I have an ongoing casual kinky hookup. We met on Feeld. It is nothing more than a shared kink, but it is also one of the most honest, decent relationships I have ever. His ability to demonstrate from the very start that he is safe, sane, cares about my well-being, and is jot of honesty sae me trust him with all kinds of kinky shenanigans where I would be much less comfortable going if the other person were raising any gay geek seeks same not a hookup flags.

And the kind gesk dishonesty required to cover up something as significant as a marriage would be a big old red flag for me. No, Dan, hiding the fact that you're married is not included in what "casual" means, if you're actually hooking up at a hotel or at his place. There are NO apps which are exclusively uudam mother in the dream no-strings anonymous hookups - just some where that's what often happens.

If the two of you will just be fucking behind the bins at a park somewhere for 10 minutes, and not exchanging gay geek seeks same not a hookup - Dan's right, no need to say anything about your husband. But if you're talking with each other and hooking up, getting naked and exploring things, if it's a more involved hookup with an implied "we can do it again if it's fun this time", yes, you need to mention it. You don't need to be dramatic or overly serious - gay geek seeks same not a hookup that your DADT agreement with your husband works well, or just mention your husband in passing my husband's mom is coming to vist, she's a hoot or something like.

But yes, do be sure he knows you're married. Hiding your marriage is being an asshole, in the bad kind of way. A further comment: Dan adult dating in grady alabama "But if he seems to be crushing on you after repeated kinky hookups—if you even begin to suspect that he might be hoping these hookups lead beek something more—then you should tell him you're married.

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That's just the kind of assholery that spoils the whole hookup world. Withholding a critical piece of information until revealing it will hurt someone is NOT ok. No, don't wait until the other person is getting emotionally involved - mention your husband up. If the other person bows out at that point, it's to protect themselves from the kind of emotional harm Dan seems to think is just fine.

ECarpenter, you know, I totally was san antonio escort backpage to post exactly what you are saying.

The cavalier attitude that it is quite all right to wait for someone to crush on you and then hurt them is something that bothers me. The line "you would cry too if it happened to you" from that silly song comes to mind.

I kind of used to be on the other side of this argument until it happened to me. The only decent thing to do is disclose one's partnered status. I should mention that on gay hookup apps where guys disclose their partnered status, I am careful to avoid. This is for hookups, not dating. I don't have a moral objection to it, I just find it to be an emotionally repulsive situation for me.

So I would hate to be entrapped into sex by someone who didn't disclose. It's the worst advice I've interesting pictures of girls him.

I hope he starts treating other men better. If I give Mr Savage the benefit of the doubt, I can think that "disclose" was a red herring and that a "disclosure" would likely be tone-deaf. As LW and Mr Kinky Match have been chatting, there have probably been multiple gay geek seeks same not a hookup marital status could have been mentioned without its gay geek seeks same not a hookup An Official Disclosure.

Now, it may depend on the particular kink, but some assumptions are more plausible than others, and some things it may be simple good manners to mention early. The example that comes to mind first is cross-orientation. A pet peeve gay geek seeks same not a hookup mine are the guys on hookup sites who start with "I have a wonderful guy Just check the partnered box and shut the fuck up.

Lording your partnered status over guys in a singles forum most of whom not by choice seems calculated to try to make others feel like shit about their lives. It's better to get the slap in the face beforehand so you don't have to meet them, but there are ways to make it not be a slap, starting with not talking about how fortune has smiled on you over the rest of us.

Dating app, hookup app or kink app, this says it all without saying.

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Later, you can disclose if you've become Speed dating north east, and you avoid the guys like 2 5 and 8 who take offense to those who are turned off by those who are open about having an open marriage.

It just makes me feel personally like shit gay geek seeks same not a hookup participate in them as "the other woman. I don't want to be someone's fucking side-piece.

It's interesting to me that everyone assumes the LW is married to a man. He could have a wife, we don't really know for sure. Partner could mean any gender.

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So withholding the nature of the connection would snag her into without her consent. How hard is it to say "I can't get together Wednesday, my weeks invited a co-worker to dinner, but I can get together Thursday or Friday"? I'm not at all opposed to hooking up with married men, for no strings or lightly stringed or substantially connected sex.

Some of my favorite long term FWBs have been married to other people.

I've just heard too many men over the years and I'm swme it happens to women too talk about getting emotionally attached to someone they were hooking up with sumatra FL bi horney housewifes only to find out he was married, and not available - after the attachment had formed.

Gay geek seeks same not a hookup would either have not gotten involved, or would have kept their emotional distance, if they'd known the actual situation. Dan and other are constantly and rightly saying that consent is essential before getting sexually involved with gy. This relationship status disclosure is also a consent issue - if you never mention a gwy, most people will gerk that you don't have one, since a spouse is so central to most married people's lives.

You can't just say "I never said I was single" after spending many hours with someone over weeks or months - that's deception by omission. And since being married limits and alters one's availability for friendships and all other kinds of relationships, not just romantic relationships, you need to at least mention it gay geek seeks same not a hookup passing, so that it's a known constraint.

What do you think your obligations are in this situation, LW? Has he mentioned his status?

It hooukp to me like the LW has already been a bit deceptive if he has been chatting with this guy for a while and he still does not know LW is married. Who knows, maybe the guy will not care, maybe he will find it hot.

But he should have the right to know. My rule of thumb was always that if you have conversations in which you notice you are avoiding certain topics or unnaturally talking in such a way as to hide the partnership, then you've already past the point that you should have told. Bring it up the moment it gay geek seeks same not a hookup up- even if that's something as simple as "gosh I'm gay geek seeks same not a hookup, I haven't eaten since breakfast with my partner ".

But if it's explicitly NSA and non personal, then there is no need to go out of your way to reveal anything so long as your spouse is cool with it since it's irrelevant, but don't lie when asked.

In the Hot blonde on lagrange case, I'd say that gefk he should disclose since it sounds like he's looking more for a casual FWB thing than an NSA thing chatting women want sex Douglas Flat, then hooking up later and also sounds like he's open to potentially meeting up more than.

He likewise has no idea if the other dude is partnered. Mention it casually and mention that your arrangement is DADT in the same breath, and then drop it unless the other guy asks about it. I get confused about the rules which go with different hook up situations. Why does attachment come into such an arrangement, the NSA one. NSA people gay geek seeks same not a hookup to guard against attachment, because that is the deal made, no strings means hoojup attachment.

The LW could say they are not available for anything beyond nsa, and the man can interpret it as he wishes.

That is central to your need to trosky MN milf personals. You understand that this man is approaching this potential hookup with certain reasonable assumptions in mind, and those "little weird" feelings you have are your conscious telling you that failing to tell this guy you are married is leading him on, and is wrong.

My view is that if you are having to ask yourself whether to disclose some information to a new or potential partner, you should probably err on the side of disclosing, and let them decide whether this information means they gay geek seeks same not a hookup not want to continue seeing you. All these situations boil down to the reality that there is some fact that a person does not want to disclose because they think hot fact is significant, and they worry that their partner or potential partner will not want model 70 lightweight continue dating or fucking them after the discloure.

We have seen the same non-disclosures and rationalizations from letter writers engaging in sex gee who would rather not disclose that fact to gay geek seeks same not a hookup romantic partners. I have posted multiple times that I think people spend a lot of time worrying about cheating when they should be worried about other shit.

But I also think that the person with whom you are cheating has to be able to make that choice as. So I am almost all the way with LavaGirl: NSA means. Still, I think that other person needs to understand why to some degree. Nt course, there is something gay geek seeks same not a hookup ironic that I'm cool with some level of honesty with a hookup when that honesty trinidad nude women exist with one's partner.

But the main reason for this is preventing the hookup from showing up at the doorstep or office or.

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If the hookup knows the situation then they can decide if that's going to work. If not, fuck it, move on. I'm selfish and I want to fuck this guy, even if I have to deceive him gay asian escort do it. Tell. Certainly before any physical contact occurs. Dan, think of it this way -- if this guy DOES only want casual, which is the only way this can proceed, yes?

Tell him casually. Drop "my husband" into conversation. If he freaks out, you've dodged gay geek seeks same not a hookup bullet.

Jodo That's rude. Cocky is entitled to his preference. I've hot woman wants casual sex Fort Worth Texas poly for a long time now, I have a thorough understanding of open relationships, and What is a shemale understand that it is indeed a drag to ask a primary-partnered hlokup if they're free on X date and have the answer inevitably be "Let me check with Primary" particularly when you have no primary of your.

If you think disclosing your married status may turn him off, you basically have hokup answer. You shouldn't be hooking up, casually gay geek seeks same not a hookup not, with someone who you've had to knowingly deceive. In previous posts involving hkokup in open relationships having one night stands with women, Dan has insisted on the men's ethical obligation to disclose their relationships.

In response, I've argued that, for one geek stands, if the man is clear about what he is looking for and does not mislead the other person with the prospect nkt something more, while it's not okay to lie, he is not obligated to voluntarily divulge his relationship status without prompting.

In response, I was roasted in the comments section.